Marriage Counseling Tip: Either Way Its Hard – Whether You Try Or Don’t Try

Here is a marriage counseling tip from a couples therapist in Utah. If your relationship is hard now, it will most likely be hard later. Doing relationship therapy is also difficult. So, either way, it’s hard – whether you try counseling or not. So, why not choose a path that can actually help?

Over the years, I have found that most couples who enter therapy probably could have started years before. They let things go on and on to the point where they have incurred a lot of damage. By the time they get into therapy there is so much damage to repair, much more than they originally had when they thought of going to therapy in the first place. 

Its Hard If You Do Nothing

If you leave things the way they are, they will continue to be difficult. Granted, going to therapy might be difficult too, but at least you know the ‘hard’ of staying in the same patterns in your relationship. By staying home and continuing on the same path, you will get what you have always got. Most likely, right? It’s hard to change when thighs have been piling up and have become more difficult and painful. 

Its Hard If You Try Marriage Counseling

Counseling can bring up uncomfortable feelings (Related Article: Emotions 101: How To Be Healthy). It forces you to face what you might be trying to avoid. The pain from your relationship or other parts of your life. Feeling these emotions can be difficult and hard because you haven’t known what to do with them in the past. If you are like most people, you have learned how to avoid your emotions rather than feel them (Related Article: Coping Versus Avoiding? Why Knowing The Difference Matters). 

Going in to see a therapist is a risk because it might not work. What if you put in all that effort  and it doesn’t work? It’s scary to think about opening up and being vulnerable when it might not go anywhere? Right? Many couples don’t start therapy because of this fear. They think that they are too far gone or that it would be too hard if they did start getting help. 

Pick The ‘Hard’ That Will Give You A Chance

Either way, it is going to be hard. Why not choose the ‘hard’ that can actually help you make your relationship stronger? Counseling has been proven to help couples or individuals in need (Related Article: Marriage Counseling – Does It Work?). It helps more often than not. It is scary to start, but can be worth it. 

Try marriage counseling today with a therapist in Orem, South Jordan, Spanish Fork or American Fork. 

Written by Triston Morgan, PhD, Utah Marriage and Family Therapist