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Relationship Problems and Communication Problems
Relationship problems are inevitable in marriage. That term can be very broad, so let’s break that down a little more specifically. Because, when I ask couples what I can help them with, the most common response is “communication problems.” This is what they would call their biggest relationship problem. In my mind, this term has…
Read MorePornography Counseling – How Secrecy Fuels Addiction
Pornography counseling can be one of the first steps to healing. It will help you open up to yourself and others. One of the problems is that secrets fuel addiction. As I have mentioned before in previous posts, addictions, such as pornography addictions, are a shame-based experience. This means that when someone uses pornography they…
Read MoreAn Ethic to Live: Building Barriers to Suicide Around Ourselves & Those We Love
Building Barriers to Suicide Around Ourselves & Those We Love In cities throughout the world, notable high buildings and bridges increasingly have additional fencing built atop of them with the specific purpose of preventing suicides. Suicide fences tend to work because research has shown that suicidal actions are frequently impulsive, hence such fences serve to…
Read MoreWhat to Do if You are on a Path of Divorce – Couples Therapy
Marriage is never easy, and most spouses need to attend couples therapy to help. Have you ever wondered how so many people seem to look so happy in theirs? Well – they might be, but chances are, they struggle too. The difference might be how you handle the struggle as a couple that can bring…
Read MoreCouples Therapy – Pornography Problem
Do you or someone you love have a pornography problem? It’s more common than you think. Pornography use is on the rise and the age of first exposure is starting earlier and earlier. Research (Davis, Perry in 2017) has also found that breakups in romantic relationships are twice as more likely to happen 6 years…
Read MoreMyth: Marriage needs to be 50/50
Here is one myth that a marriage counselor will help you dispel: Marriage needs to be a 50/50 split. Everything done and contributed needs to be equal. This simply is false. What marriage needs is 100% from each partner. In some instances, that means that one spouse will do more than the other because of…
Read MorePTSD And Trauma Counseling
Trauma counseling isn’t easy, but can be worth it. For trauma survivors, some therapists utilize the systemic approaches of internal family systems (IFS) and emotion-focused therapy (EFT). These approaches focus on strengthening attachment that exists both outside and inside of the self. Others also use play therapy when treating children and young adolescents who have…
Read MoreWhat You Should Know Before Starting EMDR Part Three: Emotional Regulation
About EMDR: Emotional Regulation In part 1 of this series, I discussed what trauma is, how it develops, and how that translates into negative beliefs. In part 2 I explained how to identify and explore negative beliefs about oneself. Both of these topics are important to know about when starting EMDR (a treatment for trauma…
Read MoreWhat To Know Before Starting EMDR Part Two: Negative Beliefs
About EMDR: Negative Beliefs EMDR is a trauma therapy approach developed by Francine Shapiro in the 1980s. EMDR addresses trauma, both in the form of single incidents and persistent negative experiences. For a more in-depth look at how trauma develops, see part 1 of this 3 part series. As I discuss in the first part,…
Read MoreWhat To Know Before Starting EMDR
EMDR (short for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) is a treatment for trauma or trauma counseling developed by Francine Shapiro in the 1980s. This process involves the client doing eye movements (or other bilateral stimulation like tapping) as directed by a trained therapist while recalling distressing events with the goal of healing your mind. If…
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