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How To Be Emotionally Healthy: Primary Versus Secondary Emotions
If you want to learn how to be emotionally healthy, you need to learn about the difference between secondary and primary emotions. In a past article you learned about the importance of recognizing, feeling and coping with your emotions (Related Article: Emotions 101: How To Be Healthy). Learning the difference between a primary emotion and…
Read MoreWhat Is Emotional Safety In A Relationship?
Let’s talk about what emotional safety is and why it matters to your relationship and how to get it. What Is Emotional Safety? Emotional safety in your relationship is knowing and feeling that your partner sees you, accepts you and will be there for you. It involves being able to make mistakes and…
Read MoreWhat You Can Do Before Going To Counseling
What can you do before you go to counseling? There is plenty to start with. Counseling for anxiety or depression in Utah is becoming more accepted, even though there are still stigmas attached to it (Related Article: Stigmas – Counseling For Mental Health Problems In Utah). Many people are finding help for their mental health…
Read MoreMarriage Counseling – How To Fix Communication In A Relationship
Let’s talk about how to fix communication in a relationship. Whether you are in marriage counseling or not, you can use these principles to fix marriage problems (Related Articles: 4 Signs You Have Marriage Problems and How To Fix Your Marriage Problems). These are relationship tips taken from providing marriage and family therapy in Utah…
Read MoreWhat Is The Difference Between Sadness and Depression?
What is the difference between sadness and depression? This is a question clients often ask me as a therapist in Utah County. Most clients I work with have a hard time admitting that they have depression and want to call it just sadness (Related Article: Depression Counseling). There seems to be a negative stigma with…
Read MorePornography Counseling – Common Issues
After offering pornography counseling in Utah for years, I have learned many things about this huge relationship problem. Clients are all different, but they have some common things among them. Let’s talk about what most people who use pornography have in common. You can also check out groups like Fight The New Drug who have…
Read MoreHold Emotional Space For Your Spouse
Let’s talk about how to hold emotional space for your spouse. If you want to get closer to your spouse and create more emotional intimacy in your relationship (Related Article: Emotional Intimacy: What It Is And How To Get It), you will want to learn this skill. This is also part of creating crucial emotional…
Read MoreRelationship Problems – Money
Relationship problems often come in the form of money. As discussed in other articles, money, sex (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex) and in-laws (Related Article: Relationship Problems – In-Laws) are potential issues for premarital and newlywed couples (referencing John Gottman’s work). Let’s talk about how money can be an issue for married couples…
Read MoreCoping Or Avoiding? Why Knowing The Difference Matters
Are your behaviors coping or avoiding your emotions? There is a big difference, and if you know it, you can be more healthy. I’m often asked, as a marriage counselor, for a list of things clients can do to cope well. I have to tell them that I don’t have one because here’s the thing…
Read MoreWhat To Do About Marriage Problems Because Of Anxiety
Let’s talk about what to do about marriage problems because of anxiety. Anxiety can often be seen as an individual issue. However, this issue impacts not only you, but those around you. There are certain techniques that you can use to combat individual anxiety such as positive self-talk and diaphragmatic breathing (Related Articles: How To…
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