Counseling isn’t something that you wake up in the morning thinking you need out of the blue. It is something that usually occupies your mind as your relationships or life become painful. You might have tried several things before committing to counseling that do or do not help. After failed attempts, you might decide that…

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One way to fix your relationship problems is to learn how to validate each other and still have differing opinions. This can seem like oil and water to some couples, however, it can help you get closer together.    I’ll show you how to do this through several examples based on clients that I have…

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After providing family therapy for almost two decades now, I have learned a lot from parents and their children. Some families seem to figure out what it takes to be healthy and strong, while others struggle. I want to share two principles with you about how to make your family stronger. This is based on…

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Marriage counseling is probably one of the most difficult things you can do, and, subsequently, the most important. That is, If it’s something that you need. Most couples put off marriage counseling years after they probably need to start. This hurts your relationship because the problems you have continue to damage your marriage over the…

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If you have asked yourself, ‘Is counseling right for me?”, you are not alone. Many people struggle with mental illness and need help. Did you know that depression is one of the most common mental health disorders in the United States, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. And don’t forget about anxiety. It…

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Poor communication in marriage is the number one problem I see as a therapist. Most couples that call for an appointment tell me they have ‘communication problems’. There are many ways to describe communication problems in marriage. Let’s talk about a few of them that I have noticed as a couples therapist. These are taken…

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As a therapist over the years, I have noticed a few common marriage problems. I see these going hand-in-hand with marriage problems such as the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse, based on my practice-based research. I am going to outline several common themes based on what I’ve seen as a PhD, marriage and family therapist…

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In a previous article, I wrote about 4 signs you have marriage problems. In this article, I will outline how to fix marriage problems. These concepts are taken from one of the world’s leading researchers on marriages, John Gottman. He has followed couples in his research studies and has found out what it takes for…

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If you are reading this article, you likely have marriage problems. Also, you could be thinking there isn’t hope because you have tried everything. Your own emotional health could be suffering.  Without hope, continuing in a marriage riddled with problems can be daunting. This article is meant to give you hope through recognizing specific issues…

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Many partners entering couples therapy look for one thing: better communication. It would stand to reason, then, that the most common complaint I hear from couples is that they have ‘communication problems’ (Related Article: Relationship Problems and Communication Problems). But, what does this mean? It means the way you communicate with your spouse is painful.…

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