Do you ever wonder why you do certain things or why others do what they do? Maybe what you do doesn’t make sense to you. Or, maybe what others do doesn’t make sense either. As a therapist providing individual therapy, let me share with you what I have learned from clients over the years.   …

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People looking for help for pornography problems need to understand this principle: Pornography use is an avoidance issue. It’s not a sexual addiction or a sex issue. Rather, it is an avoidance problem. When you use pornography, you release chemicals in your body that feel good, or comfortable (Related Article: 3 Principles Of Emotional Health).…

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Here are some individual therapy tips from a Utah counselor about knowing the difference between guilt and shame. Oh, how this is important! There is a difference and most people get it wrong. Knowing the difference between these two can help you avoid misunderstandings, personal mental health issues and discomfort. It can also help you…

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As a counselor offering individual therapy for nearly two decades, I have learned about emotions. I have noticed how well clients do that are able to properly recognize, feel and cope with their emotions (Related article: Emotions 101: How To Be Healthy). By doing this they are able to live a healthy life, where they…

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Building your emotional capacity is one of my main goals as a Utah therapist. If you are able to increase how much emotional discomfort you can handle as a person, you will be better off. You will be stronger!    We all have limits emotionally just like we all have limits physically. And, just like…

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If you have ever said to yourself – my spouse is using pornography, what do I do? You have come to the right place to learn about it. You are not alone in this world. Many other women ask the same question. Most marriages have experience with one partner using pornography at some point.   …

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Here is a communication in marriage tip to help you develop better skills to communicate well with your spouse. These are taken from John Gottman’s research with couples over the years and my experience as a marriage and family therapist in Utah for nearly two decades.    Communication in Marriage Tip – Soft Start Up…

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Let’s talk about how to communicate better with your spouse. This is something that you would learn in marriage therapy, but can learn here and apply at home. It might take a therapist to help you apply it, but let’s try it this way at first to see how it goes for you.    When…

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What are the causes of divorce? If you want to know what one of the best researchers out there has to say about it, check out John Gottman’s work. Or you can read a quick summary of some of it here – 4 Signs You Have Marriage Problems and How To Fix Your Marriage Problems.…

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Couples counseling for infertility in Utah can help both of you make sense of what has and is happening and heal together. Infertility impacts so many couples for different reasons. Whatever the reason it is impacting you, it brings with it pain, confusion, anger and shame. It might also cause anxiety (Related Article: Counseling For…

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