If you are reading this article, you likely have marriage problems. Also, you could be thinking there isn’t hope because you have tried everything. Your own emotional health could be suffering.  Without hope, continuing in a marriage riddled with problems can be daunting. This article is meant to give you hope through recognizing specific issues…

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Many partners entering couples therapy look for one thing: better communication. It would stand to reason, then, that the most common complaint I hear from couples is that they have ‘communication problems’ (Related Article: Relationship Problems and Communication Problems). But, what does this mean? It means the way you communicate with your spouse is painful.…

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As a marriage and family therapist who also does individual therapy, clients ask me what they should do to cope with emotions. There is a difference between coping with an uncomfortable emotion and avoiding that uncomfortable emotion. They are usually looking for a list of coping strategies. I hesitate to offer such a list without…

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Whether you are in counseling or not, here is how to deal with emotions right. If you have emotions that are difficult to handle, consider the following ideas. As you follow these principles, you will start to become more emotionally – and relationally – healthy. These steps are a good companion to couples and individual…

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Offering depression counseling over the years, I have noted that depression comes in many forms. You might naturally feel down or depressed because you lost a relationship or you might experience a diagnosable major depressive episode. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (2017) about 7% of all adults experienced the latter in a…

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Find Recovery and Healing in Pornography Counseling Most of you who use pornography struggle to feel emotions. Aside from shame, that is. Pornography is, after all, a shame-based experience. After years as a marriage and family therapist and doing pornography counseling, I have noticed that it is not that you cannot or do not feel…

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Want to learn how to communicate better? One of the most common relationship problems is setting boundaries incorrectly. Let’s talk about how setting boundaries appropriately helps you communicate well. Setting appropriate boundaries can be tricky and seems counterintuitive. Most people want to set boundaries with their partner because they, personally, are feeling uncomfortable in some…

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As a therapist offering counseling for anxiety, I have learned that clients use the term ‘anxiety’ as a catch-all for many different emotions. At least this is how many people use it. Being able to recognize your emotions is one key to mental and emotional health.  As I do counseling for anxiety, I notice that…

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One of the most basic needs you have as a person is attachment – this is something that Couples Counseling can help with. We are not built to be alone. However, many of our reflexes are to protect and take care of just ourselves. Figuring out how to balance the tendency to take care of…

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How to Make Counseling Work Events or circumstances beyond your control have an important impact on changing – going to counseling can help. You and your spouse could come into therapy looking for help and expecting that therapy itself will create that change. Did you know that therapy researchers reference events and circumstances outside of…

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