Communication in marriage can be difficult. You want to communicate in an honest way and connect with your spouse in order to have a good relationship. You want emotional intimacy. However, becoming emotionally intimate in your marriage isn’t easy and often feels counterintuitive (Related Article: Emotional Intimacy: What It Is And How To Get It…

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The stigma of going to counseling for mental health problems in Utah is diminishing, but still there. Many people believe that you are weak if you go to counseling or that you should just be able to fix your problems yourself. Others don’t know what to expect when going to therapy so they don’t start…

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I’ll share with you a few tips for relationship problems as I have learned from clients what works. As a Utah marriage and family therapist, I have noticed several trends that are worth sharing.    Be Deliberate   Clients who seem to be healthy and have a good relationship are deliberate about it. A good…

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Do you ever wonder why you do certain things or why others do what they do? Maybe what you do doesn’t make sense to you. Or, maybe what others do doesn’t make sense either. As a therapist providing individual therapy, let me share with you what I have learned from clients over the years.   …

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People looking for help for pornography problems need to understand this principle: Pornography use is an avoidance issue. It’s not a sexual addiction or a sex issue. Rather, it is an avoidance problem. When you use pornography, you release chemicals in your body that feel good, or comfortable (Related Article: 3 Principles Of Emotional Health).…

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Here are some individual therapy tips from a Utah counselor about knowing the difference between guilt and shame. Oh, how this is important! There is a difference and most people get it wrong. Knowing the difference between these two can help you avoid misunderstandings, personal mental health issues and discomfort. It can also help you…

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As a counselor offering individual therapy for nearly two decades, I have learned about emotions. I have noticed how well clients do that are able to properly recognize, feel and cope with their emotions (Related article: Emotions 101: How To Be Healthy). By doing this they are able to live a healthy life, where they…

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Building your emotional capacity is one of my main goals as a Utah therapist. If you are able to increase how much emotional discomfort you can handle as a person, you will be better off. You will be stronger!    We all have limits emotionally just like we all have limits physically. And, just like…

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If you have ever said to yourself – my spouse is using pornography, what do I do? You have come to the right place to learn about it. You are not alone in this world. Many other women ask the same question. Most marriages have experience with one partner using pornography at some point.   …

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Here is a communication in marriage tip to help you develop better skills to communicate well with your spouse. These are taken from John Gottman’s research with couples over the years and my experience as a marriage and family therapist in Utah for nearly two decades.    Communication in Marriage Tip – Soft Start Up…

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