Let’s talk about what emotional safety is and why it matters to your relationship and how to get it.    What Is Emotional Safety?   Emotional safety in your relationship is knowing and feeling that your partner sees you, accepts you and will be there for you. It involves being able to make mistakes and…

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How do you know if you need sex therapy? The answer is easier than you realize, but can be difficult to follow through on. Having relationship problems because of sex is common (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex). However, going to couples therapy for sex problems is difficult. It is hard enough to go to…

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After offering pornography counseling in Utah for years, I have learned many things about this huge relationship problem. Clients are all different, but they have some common things among them. Let’s talk about what most people who use pornography have in common. You can also check out groups like Fight The New Drug who have…

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Let’s talk about how to hold emotional space for your spouse. If you want to get closer to your spouse and create more emotional intimacy in your relationship (Related Article: Emotional Intimacy: What It Is And How To Get It), you will want to learn this skill. This is also part of creating crucial emotional…

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Relationship problems often come in the form of money. As discussed in other articles, money, sex (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex) and in-laws (Related Article: Relationship Problems – In-Laws) are potential issues for premarital and newlywed couples (referencing John Gottman’s work).    Let’s talk about how money can be an issue for married couples…

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Relationship problems come in all shapes and sizes. John Gottman has emphasized that there are three problems that marriages even newlyweds face: money (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Money), sex and in-laws (Related Article: Relationship Problems – In-Laws). As a Utah marriage counselor for nearly two decades, I have seen these issues again and again.…

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Marriage therapy in Utah is becoming more popular. There are some recent trends that we have noticed as marriage and family therapists. I’d like to share them with you here so that you can take advantage of marriage therapy if you and your spouse need it, but are having a hard time getting in.  …

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As a Utah counselor, I often meet with individuals or couples who use this one cognitive thinking error: Polarized Thinking. It’s  something that you are probably doing, but don’t realize it. It hurts your mental health and causes relationship problems (Related Article: Tips For Relationship Problems). Let’s talk about what it is, how it can…

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Oh, what to do about relationship problems with in-laws?! This is one of the biggest concerns of pre-marital couples and newlyweds (Related Article: Pre Marriage Counseling Tips), along with money issues (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Money) and problems with sex (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex). It isn’t something that goes away later in…

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