Marriage Counselor
Common Relationship Problems: Defensiveness
Navigating Common Relationship Problems: Defensiveness Let’s talk about one of the more common relationship problems – defensiveness (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Criticism and Relationship Problems – Contempt). Remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. But rather, it’s how you handle your relationship problems that can lead…
Read MoreCommon Relationship Problems: Criticism
How to Avoid Common Relationship Problems: Criticism Saying that you have relationship problems when you are married is like saying you got wet when you went swimming. It comes with the territory. And remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. Rather, it’s how you handle your relationship…
Read MoreCommunication in Relationships
Good communication in relationships isn’t something that comes naturally to most people. It’s hard to communicate with your partner when you are hurt or afraid. Your natural tendency is to learn away from danger, or the source of pain in your life. This is how your ancestors survived over time. They were able to lean…
Read MoreCouples Therapist
As a couples therapist in Utah County and Salt Lake County, I have worked with different types of clients. Over the years I have worked with clients presenting with anxiety, depression, pornography addiction, substance use problems, marriage problems, and many more. It’s been interesting that as I have worked with each one of them, my…
Read MoreUtah Telehealth Example
Utah telehealth is a great way to do counseling or therapy online. You can do telehealth for marriage problems, depression, anxiety, or many other issues. After providing counseling online, I have an example I’d like to share. I have changed the names of the client and identifying information to protect the confidentiality of these clients. …
Read MorePornography Use Is An Avoidance Issue, Not A Sex Issue
Many believe that pornography use is a sex addiction. I have heard many clients (usually male) tell their partners that if they would just have more sex with them that they wouldn’t use pornography. These clients seem to believe that pornography is a sex issue. It’s not, however. It’s an avoidance issue. Let’s talk about…
Read MoreHow Utah Telehealth Counseling Works
I’ve meet with many telehealth clients in Utah over the years as a counselor for depression, anxiety, pornography or relationship problems. I recently wrote about how to get the most out of Telehealth counseling sessions for marriage problems or individual issues (Related Article: Telehealth In Utah). In this article, I will outline how online counseling…
Read MoreWhat Is Emotional Safety In A Relationship?
Let’s talk about what emotional safety is and why it matters to your relationship and how to get it. What Is Emotional Safety? Emotional safety in your relationship is knowing and feeling that your partner sees you, accepts you and will be there for you. It involves being able to make mistakes and…
Read MoreDo We Need Sex Therapy?
How do you know if you need sex therapy? The answer is easier than you realize, but can be difficult to follow through on. Having relationship problems because of sex is common (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex). However, going to couples therapy for sex problems is difficult. It is hard enough to go to…
Read MoreWhat You Can Do Before Going To Counseling
What can you do before you go to counseling? There is plenty to start with. Counseling for anxiety or depression in Utah is becoming more accepted, even though there are still stigmas attached to it (Related Article: Stigmas – Counseling For Mental Health Problems In Utah). Many people are finding help for their mental health…
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