Good communication in relationships isn’t something that comes naturally to most people. It’s hard to communicate with your partner when you are hurt or afraid. Your natural tendency is to learn away from danger, or the source of pain in your life. This is how your ancestors survived over time. They were able to lean…

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As a couples therapist in Utah County and Salt Lake County, I have worked with different types of clients. Over the years I have worked with clients presenting with anxiety, depression, pornography addiction, substance use problems, marriage problems, and many more. It’s been interesting that as I have worked with each one of them, my…

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Utah telehealth is a great way to do counseling or therapy online. You can do telehealth for marriage problems, depression, anxiety, or many other issues. After providing counseling online, I have an example I’d like to share. I have changed the names of the client and identifying information to protect the confidentiality of these clients. …

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Many believe that pornography use is a sex addiction. I have heard many clients (usually male) tell their partners that if they would just have more sex with them that they wouldn’t use pornography. These clients seem to believe that pornography is a sex issue. It’s not, however. It’s an avoidance issue. Let’s talk about…

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Let’s talk about what emotional safety is and why it matters to your relationship and how to get it.    What Is Emotional Safety?   Emotional safety in your relationship is knowing and feeling that your partner sees you, accepts you and will be there for you. It involves being able to make mistakes and…

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How do you know if you need sex therapy? The answer is easier than you realize, but can be difficult to follow through on. Having relationship problems because of sex is common (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex). However, going to couples therapy for sex problems is difficult. It is hard enough to go to…

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Let’s talk about how to fix communication in a relationship. Whether you are in marriage counseling or not, you can use these principles to fix marriage problems (Related Articles: 4 Signs You Have Marriage Problems and How To Fix Your Marriage Problems). These are relationship tips taken from providing marriage and family therapy in Utah…

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After offering pornography counseling in Utah for years, I have learned many things about this huge relationship problem. Clients are all different, but they have some common things among them. Let’s talk about what most people who use pornography have in common. You can also check out groups like Fight The New Drug who have…

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Let’s talk about how to hold emotional space for your spouse. If you want to get closer to your spouse and create more emotional intimacy in your relationship (Related Article: Emotional Intimacy: What It Is And How To Get It), you will want to learn this skill. This is also part of creating crucial emotional…

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Relationship problems often come in the form of money. As discussed in other articles, money, sex (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex) and in-laws (Related Article: Relationship Problems – In-Laws) are potential issues for premarital and newlywed couples (referencing John Gottman’s work).    Let’s talk about how money can be an issue for married couples…

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