marriage and family therapy
Common Relationship Problems: Criticism
How to Avoid Common Relationship Problems: Criticism Saying that you have relationship problems when you are married is like saying you got wet when you went swimming. It comes with the territory. And remember, it’s not the presence of relationship problems (i.e., arguments, fights) that leads to divorce. Rather, it’s how you handle your relationship…
Read MoreCommunication in Relationships
Good communication in relationships isn’t something that comes naturally to most people. It’s hard to communicate with your partner when you are hurt or afraid. Your natural tendency is to learn away from danger, or the source of pain in your life. This is how your ancestors survived over time. They were able to lean…
Read MoreCouples Therapist
As a couples therapist in Utah County and Salt Lake County, I have worked with different types of clients. Over the years I have worked with clients presenting with anxiety, depression, pornography addiction, substance use problems, marriage problems, and many more. It’s been interesting that as I have worked with each one of them, my…
Read MoreUtah Telehealth Example
Utah telehealth is a great way to do counseling or therapy online. You can do telehealth for marriage problems, depression, anxiety, or many other issues. After providing counseling online, I have an example I’d like to share. I have changed the names of the client and identifying information to protect the confidentiality of these clients. …
Read MoreParenting Adolescents 101: Adolescents Thrive In Structure And Push Against It
Parenting adolescents can be confusing and hard to understand. It’s difficult to understand what they need and how to give it to them. After working with adolescents in therapy here in Utah for a few decades, let me share with you a few principles that might help. Adolescents Need Structure First, adolescents need…
Read MorePornography Use Is An Avoidance Issue, Not A Sex Issue
Many believe that pornography use is a sex addiction. I have heard many clients (usually male) tell their partners that if they would just have more sex with them that they wouldn’t use pornography. These clients seem to believe that pornography is a sex issue. It’s not, however. It’s an avoidance issue. Let’s talk about…
Read MoreWhat Is Emotional Safety In A Relationship?
Let’s talk about what emotional safety is and why it matters to your relationship and how to get it. What Is Emotional Safety? Emotional safety in your relationship is knowing and feeling that your partner sees you, accepts you and will be there for you. It involves being able to make mistakes and…
Read MoreValidate And Empower Your Adolescent Child – Utah Family Therapy
Family therapy with adolescents in Utah often involves two key developmental principles. First, parents have to change their parenting style to match the stage their child is in. Second, adolescents need to learn how to become their own person and still remain a part of a group like their family. These principles are outlined in…
Read MoreDo We Need Sex Therapy?
How do you know if you need sex therapy? The answer is easier than you realize, but can be difficult to follow through on. Having relationship problems because of sex is common (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Sex). However, going to couples therapy for sex problems is difficult. It is hard enough to go to…
Read MoreRelationship Problems – Sex
Relationship problems come in all shapes and sizes. John Gottman has emphasized that there are three problems that marriages even newlyweds face: money (Related Article: Relationship Problems – Money), sex and in-laws (Related Article: Relationship Problems – In-Laws). As a Utah marriage counselor for nearly two decades, I have seen these issues again and again.…
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