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Relationship Problems and Communication Problems
Relationship problems are inevitable in marriage. That term can be very broad, so let’s break that down a little more specifically. Because, when I ask couples what I can help them with, the most common response is “communication problems.” This is what they would call their biggest relationship problem. In my mind, this term has…
Read MorePornography Counseling – How Secrecy Fuels Addiction
Pornography counseling can be one of the first steps to healing. It will help you open up to yourself and others. One of the problems is that secrets fuel addiction. As I have mentioned before in previous posts, addictions, such as pornography addictions, are a shame-based experience. This means that when someone uses pornography they…
Read MoreHow to Get My Husband to Counseling for Relationship Problems
How Can I Get My Husband to go to Counseling for Relationship Problems? If you have relationship problems, just getting into therapy can be difficult. We are not looking to blame anyone for this difficulty. However, there might be one spouse that is hesitant to start. Let’s talk about what to do if it your…
Read MoreCouples Therapy – Pornography Problem
Do you or someone you love have a pornography problem? It’s more common than you think. Pornography use is on the rise and the age of first exposure is starting earlier and earlier. Research (Davis, Perry in 2017) has also found that breakups in romantic relationships are twice as more likely to happen 6 years…
Read MoreMyth: Marriage needs to be 50/50
Here is one myth that a marriage counselor will help you dispel: Marriage needs to be a 50/50 split. Everything done and contributed needs to be equal. This simply is false. What marriage needs is 100% from each partner. In some instances, that means that one spouse will do more than the other because of…
Read MorePTSD And Trauma Counseling
Trauma counseling isn’t easy, but can be worth it. For trauma survivors, some therapists utilize the systemic approaches of internal family systems (IFS) and emotion-focused therapy (EFT). These approaches focus on strengthening attachment that exists both outside and inside of the self. Others also use play therapy when treating children and young adolescents who have…
Read MoreWhat You Should Know Before Starting EMDR Part Three: Emotional Regulation
About EMDR: Emotional Regulation In part 1 of this series, I discussed what trauma is, how it develops, and how that translates into negative beliefs. In part 2 I explained how to identify and explore negative beliefs about oneself. Both of these topics are important to know about when starting EMDR (a treatment for trauma…
Read MoreWhat To Know Before Starting EMDR Part Two: Negative Beliefs
About EMDR: Negative Beliefs EMDR is a trauma therapy approach developed by Francine Shapiro in the 1980s. EMDR addresses trauma, both in the form of single incidents and persistent negative experiences. For a more in-depth look at how trauma develops, see part 1 of this 3 part series. As I discuss in the first part,…
Read MoreWhat To Know Before Starting EMDR
EMDR (short for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) is a treatment for trauma or trauma counseling developed by Francine Shapiro in the 1980s. This process involves the client doing eye movements (or other bilateral stimulation like tapping) as directed by a trained therapist while recalling distressing events with the goal of healing your mind. If…
Read MoreParenting: It’s Not What You Think
Let’s talk about parenting tips to help you create a stronger family. The ever-growing ideologies of parenting offer two polar scenarios. The first is a beautiful imagery of always smiling children, as if they are cherubim with harps playing harmoniously in the background. Parents and children holding and hands and skipping in sync with bluebird’s…
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