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Anxiety: How Therapy Can Help
How Therapy Can Help Your Anxiety Anxious Thoughts Performing anxiety counseling over the years, I’ve noticed that clients anxiety comes in many forms. One of the most common ways in your mind – what you think. You become anxious and start thinking anxious thoughts. When this is the case, challenging thinking errors or other cognitive…
Read MoreParenting Advice: Secrets to Being a Happy Mom
Read this article for good parenting advice from a therapist who works with children and adolescents. I have a love/hate relationship with blogs, Instagram and Facebook. They’re great because they keep me connected with people I care about, but not so great when they intensify my perfectionist tendencies. On rough days, I often catch myself…
Read MoreEmotions 101: How To Be Healthy – Counseling
Counseling can help you deal with uncomfortable emotions in a healthy way. Most of us try to avoid uncomfortable emotions. Who likes to feel sad, depressed, lonely, hurt, scared or betrayed? Don’t you try to NOT feel this way? You might even engaged in unhealthy behaviors to avoid your emotions. Most people do. I encountered…
Read MoreRelationship Problems and Communication Problems
Relationship problems are inevitable in marriage. That term can be very broad, so let’s break that down a little more specifically. Because, when I ask couples what I can help them with, the most common response is “communication problems.” This is what they would call their biggest relationship problem. In my mind, this term has…
Read MorePornography Counseling – How Secrecy Fuels Addiction
Pornography counseling can be one of the first steps to healing. It will help you open up to yourself and others. One of the problems is that secrets fuel addiction. As I have mentioned before in previous posts, addictions, such as pornography addictions, are a shame-based experience. This means that when someone uses pornography they…
Read MoreHow to Get My Husband to Counseling for Relationship Problems
How Can I Get My Husband to go to Counseling for Relationship Problems? If you have relationship problems, just getting into therapy can be difficult. We are not looking to blame anyone for this difficulty. However, there might be one spouse that is hesitant to start. Let’s talk about what to do if it your…
Read MoreCouples Therapy – Pornography Problem
Do you or someone you love have a pornography problem? It’s more common than you think. Pornography use is on the rise and the age of first exposure is starting earlier and earlier. Research (Davis, Perry in 2017) has also found that breakups in romantic relationships are twice as more likely to happen 6 years…
Read MoreMyth: Marriage needs to be 50/50
Here is one myth that a marriage counselor will help you dispel: Marriage needs to be a 50/50 split. Everything done and contributed needs to be equal. This simply is false. What marriage needs is 100% from each partner. In some instances, that means that one spouse will do more than the other because of…
Read MorePTSD And Trauma Counseling
Trauma counseling isn’t easy, but can be worth it. For trauma survivors, some therapists utilize the systemic approaches of internal family systems (IFS) and emotion-focused therapy (EFT). These approaches focus on strengthening attachment that exists both outside and inside of the self. Others also use play therapy when treating children and young adolescents who have…
Read MoreWhat You Should Know Before Starting EMDR Part Three: Emotional Regulation
About EMDR: Emotional Regulation In part 1 of this series, I discussed what trauma is, how it develops, and how that translates into negative beliefs. In part 2 I explained how to identify and explore negative beliefs about oneself. Both of these topics are important to know about when starting EMDR (a treatment for trauma…
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